So as some of you may already know I have trained and done several half marathons and marathons. Often times during training season you can simply just get burned out. Your body simply gets tired… More
Most not all experience the Lunar Eclipse last night and today (the blood moon). I love the change and transformation of the moon because it allows me to equate that to my life. The change and the opportunity (transformation) of recreating who you choose to be. The shedding of the old egoic mindset/ways and inviting the newness, the inspiration, the optimism. Often times its important to take a moment and reflect on the past, reflect on the transformation process to truly determine where you want to go with the new season, new way of being.
What things do you want to get rid of?
What things or people do you want to invite in?
What aspirations are you seeking after?
What new goals are you wanting to accomplish?
In order to truly invite in the NEW you have to shed away the old (let go). Sometimes its hard but in order to grow you have to let go of whatever may be holding you down…that can be a person, it can be fear, it can be doubt. Whatever it may be remember that a flower can not bloom unless it sheds away the bad, the old, the not so good. So take time today and reflect on what you want to invite in on this MoonDAY and what you want to SHED away. Remember in order to invite NEWness you have to shed away the OLD.
As I was sitting the other day it was crazy how just in sitting all the many stories, thoughts, conversations that go on in your head. I realized that often times we choose to not sit because we don’t want to face the thoughts that are going on in our head.
I have often referred to my thoughts in my head as the monkey mind or the tape recorder that just keeps playing over and over again. Honestly, that is all it is. It is the voices inside of our head that are from the past that just keep replaying in our head. However, when we finally choose to live in the present state we can begin to quiet the monkey mind, we begin to be able to stop that recording from playing in our heads.
Listen to your heart
Eckhart Tolle said it best, “You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you, and allowing that goodness to emerge.” “But it can only emerge if something fundamental changes in your state of consciousness.” So therefore until we choose to live in the state of being present and release the monkey mind then we will continue to play that tape over and over again. But when we choose to live present, we choose to change our state of consciousness by being present and truly listen to our hearts…then we can proceed to greatness, we begin to live from within.
So therefore we have two lives that we can choose to live. We can choose to live the life we are living or live from within. In order to live from within we must first quiet our minds.
When you think of breaking the chains I imagine being shackled together being in a rut, can’t release, can’t get away from. Breaking the chains can be something that is physically going on with you and also literally. So what do I mean when I say, “Breaking the Chains”? Breaking the Chains is all the expectations that we hold on ourselves. Often times we set such high bars and expectations for ourselves that we feel like we are in chains..we can’t seem to catch a break, we feel like we are less than because we didn’t complete that task. We feel as if we just will never break free from our past, from our mistakes, from our problems, from our current issues, from just life in general. We don’t have to continue to be shackled, we don’t have to continue to be chained….
BREAK THE CHAIN
- Release the mindset that you have to be perfect
- Release the mindset that everything has to work a certain way
- Release the mindset that you have to do everything all on your own
- Release the concept that you don’t need help or that asking for help will make you inferior.
These are the chains that we put on ourselves each and everyday that holds us back from achieving our goals and dreams. It’s these chains that we put on ourselves every morning before we walk out of the door.
- We want to move forward
- We want to move ahead
- We want to fulfill that goal and dream but we feel we can not because we feel incapable of doing it
WE can but we must first break the chain that we have placed on our lives.
Stop feeling like life has to look a certain way, stop putting high expectations on yourself and start living. Start accepting each moment and each experience that comes in our lives as not a bad thing but as guide to help us achieve the goals that we are setting to achieve…but first you have to break the CHAINS!!!
During my meditation on the other day I begin to really just focus on my breath on trying to just quiet my mind. My mind was everywhere, I just couldn’t keep still, I couldn’t just relax and breathe. I was letting the lost of a love one, the moving homes, the transitioning of my girls to a new school, the finances, the schoolwork, the lack of this, lack of that just overtake my mind. Then it hit me…Felicia why are you letting all of these things overpower you? Why are you letting the waves of life pull you under? Why are you letting the waves of life take you completely out of self. It dawned on me…Felicia life is like riding waves, sometimes we have to go back to shore to get our composure together. Sometimes we have to go back to shore to regroup, to refocus, to reset…And that is okay. So that is what I did…
I went to shore
I refocused my mind
So realize that despite what may be going on in your life….look at life as waves…Don’t let the wave overtake you….Ride the waves. If you fall down, get back up on the board….continue to ride…..continue to hold steady. If you have to go to shore realize that is okay but don’t just stay on the shore wishing you would have, could have, should have. Get back out on the waves of life…And keep riding, keep pushing, keep striving, keep staying afloat. Don’t let the wave take you out but you take control over that wave.
Often times we get in the hustle and bustle of life and oddly enough my meditation today was all about stretching. At first I see these words and naturally think of stretching when you are trying to release a tight muscle or stretching because you don’t want to have any cramps or tightness in your body.
But this is a different type of stretching but holds the same meaning. When we stretch our bodies or a muscle we are stretching to help release tension and we are holding that pose for an extending period of time. Often times after holding a stretch we feel a sense of relief, we feel like a new person, simply a new feeling.
Well the kind of stretching I am referring to is different. This type of stretching deals with the moments in our lives. As a society we have this on the go type feeling where we are always at a need to move, to go. But what if we stop for one moment and just stretched out the present moment, we live in the present state as long as we possibly can.
What would happen?
I’ll tell you what would happen we would experience things like no other, we would notice the beauty in that moment, it will allow us to cherish that moment. We would find peace and a sense of relief within that moment.
Because we are stretching out that moment, we are truly learning and embracing the present moment. This is the type of stretching that we need to do with our lives each and everyday. Take time out each day to release the habit of always on the go but get into the habit of embracing each present moment.
Stretching out each present moment so that we can experience it fully, 100%. So the next time your mind is wanting to go so many miles per minute. Take a second and just stretch out the present moment. See what you see, feel what you feel, embrace everything that moment has to offer. Just as stretching will help release tension in your body physically it can do the same thing mentally. Mentally it can help relieve tension in your mind and allow you to truly wholeheartedly enjoy the moment. So I invite you to not only stretch physically but let’s practice stretching mentally.
So back from my hiatus I was inspired by a post that I wrote this time last year and as I was reading this post it really spoke to me. As I prepare this week to detach from the world…to embark on something that I would have never even imagine that I would have done. Then it dawned on me Felicia through it all you have grown, you have so much to be thankful for. It seemed like during the past couple of years I had more bad days than good days. But honestly it was through all those crazy days that I was able to truly define who I am, able to really see what God has in store, really able to see how my life is a testimony for others. See we often times think of this image of what a healthy life looks like but what we fail to realize healthy doesn’t just mean outward appearance but are you healthy from the inside out. So in celebration of my life I wanted to recap my past years so you can see that even while you are going through it may seem like there is no light at the end of the tunnel; it is there you just have to be patient.
Recap of Year 36
This is NOT OK
So almost 2 years back I was running my long run of 13 miles with my #runhomie and it just seemed like nothing that morning was going right. I had to stop several times to use the restroom, the gas station I normally stop at the employee was on break so I couldn’t use the restroom; so I had to proceed on with my run. If you have ever tried to run and you have to use the restroom then you know what I am talking about, not the best feeling ever. Then as I was running my heel begin to bother me; well at first I was like it just seems tight so I will keep running to see if it loosens up; well it did. Then I proceeded to run and it did just that it started to loosen up so I began to think okay well this is not going to be as bad as I thought.
Ummmm I was rudely awakened
I get about at the half way point of the run and of course we are out there so the only back is to just walk all the way back or run back. So I proceeded to run back.
Then it happened
I get back to my car and when I stopped I could feel it. It was not good, I was not okay.
So then I did what was the right thing to do, I went to the doctor and they told me I had a heel spur and also plantar fascitis.
I said to myself really not something else again, my exact words were, “Why can I not be GREAT?
So at this point I felt like there was so much going on in my life, from single motherhood to dealing with beginning stages of divorce, managing a job, two girls, one income, training and just LIFE.
I was forced to face reality, I was forced to say Fe you are not okay but guess what you will be okay.
So I began to start the healing process, began doing rehab and just trying to battle my way back. I knew I had other races lined up for the rest of the year and also the beginning of the year.
So I did what doctors ordered and when it was time I battled back. Well meanwhile during all this time of course life doesn’t just throw you one lemon but several lemons. So after completing all the races I was signed up for I finally said enough is enough Felicia it is time to really focus on you and get healthy. So I spent 6 months through physical therapy all while going through so many changes in my life….new job, selling my home, new home, divorce and just simply motherhood. I mean you name it everything that you can imagine someone going through I was going through it all. But one thing that I kept telling myself is that Felicia it will be okay. It is okay if it seems like your life is a mess right now. It doesn’t mean that you are going to always stay in that state.
See we all have this thing called pride that often times we have to face. We are ashamed of saying,
“You know what I am struggling today.”
“You know what I am having an OFF day today”
“You know what I am not OK at this moment”
What makes us stronger is the ability to recognize that and know that we will not be in that state very long.
To know that there is HOPE
To know that everything will be OK
To know that it is okay to have those days
To know that it is those days that help build us, help make us stronger
So what did I learn?
I learn that it is okay to not be OK.
It is okay to have an OFF day.
It is okay to say I am having an OFF day.
It is okay to say I am struggling right now.
What else did I learn?
It is when we face that everything is not OK that is when we BUILD when we get STRONGER and that is when we begin to have HOPE that even though at this very moment in time it may not be okay but I know that everything will be okay.
So here is to this craziness called Life, to lessons learn, to overcoming battles. Despite how things may seem or just seems like you can’t catch a break. It’s okay to not be okay the key is to not stay in that place. Dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
So now fastfoward to the year of 37….Why such a big meaning? 3 defines divine protection/guidance and 7 is completeness (both physically and spiritually) That is what Beyounique is all about is developing: STRONG MIND + STRONG SPIRIT= STRONG BODY (Completeness)
So what better way to display this than to go clear across the country and detach myself from the world and do what I absolutely love doing which is Yoga and Meditation. So as I begin my journey today in Bali, Indonesia know that despite whatever you may be going through there is hope, there is peace, there is a NEW DAY. In order to rebuild on a solid foundation sometimes we have to tear down the bad, the ugly, the not so good things that are lingering in our lives. So don’t give up on your dreams, don’t say I CAN’T dust yourself off and I say just because I can’t right now doesn’t mean I can’t it just means in due time I WILL.
And that my friends is the equation and solution for a HEALTHY LIFESTYLE.
It’s a new day, start of a new week, new journey, new You. So what are you waiting for? Are you waiting for approval? Are you waiting for someone to say You can Do It? Are you waiting for someone to discredit you or say you can’t do it. Don’t wait for approval. Don’t wait for someone to say you can do it. Go out and do it.. Go out and be Great. I remember a time when I always waited for others approval or I waited to see if anyone would congratulate me on whatever I did. If I felt as if no one congratulated me then I thought wow I must not have been great at it or I must have not done a great job. Why do we wait on others to validate us? Why do we wait on others to say good job? We wait or we thrive off of that because it makes us feel loved, it makes us feel accepted, it makes us feel that we belong, that we are somebody. So I am here to tell you stop waiting on others validations. Stop waiting for others to give you praise on your accomplishments. Go out and BE GREAT whatever that may look like, whatever it may feel like, no matter what anyone else says, no matter if anyone else sees it as a GREAT. IT IS GREAT, anything that you do that is bringing out the better version of YOU is being GREAT. So stop sitting back waiting on someone else to tell you to be GREAT. Go out and BE GREAT on your own:)
So everyone wants to be happy, everyone wants to live a happy life but what does that look like? We are always caught up in what happiness should look like instead of realizing that happiness lies from within.
When I was younger I was like most little girls I dreamed that one day I would be famous and I would have this perfect life, with the perfect husband and perfect kids and just perfect fairy tale story. As I got older I quickly realized that there is no such thing as perfection. I never knew while I was growing up that I would face weight problems, depression, separation, anxiety, disappointment, single motherhood. That was never part of the picture. As I have gone through these things I have learned what true happiness is and what it is not.
I realized that happiness is not what we think that our life should look like, happiness is accepting where we are now and enjoying the life that we have now.
Why all of this talk about Happiness?
So as I went through all of these points in my life I realized that the reason that I was experiencing the weight gain, the depression, the anxiety, the stress issues is because I was not HAPPY, I thought my life was an uttermost mess because this wasn’t the picture of what Happiness is suppose to look like. As I have learned each and everyday is that we Create our Happiness. The more that we create our Happiness on our own level the happier we are.
So stop dwelling on what your life is suppose to look like or how you are suppose to be and embrace who you are today, be happy of what you have gone through and where you are today. Because that is what Creates your Happiness.
How does this relate to fitness?
Well when you are unhappy you begin to stress, eat more, not eat at all, become less fit.
Stress= creates unhealthiness
Eating too much of bad foods= create unhealthiness
Not eating enough=create unhealthiness
Not engaging in physical activity= create unhealthines
Tired of that weight gain, well do something about it.
Tired of the depression and anxiety, do something about it.
Tired of not getting the results, do something about it.
Tired of not being happy, well stop and think why am I not happy.
We make the choice, we can choose to be happy or we can choose to live in the same state of being. Once we embrace and choose the happiness that is right in front of our faces the happier we will be, the healthier we will be, the more we will achieve the goals that we are setting out to achieve.
Strong mind + Strong Spirit= Strong Body
Enjoy the life you are living at this moment and time
With love and happiness,
How many times have you gone home or in your office or looked at your desk and said, “Whew I need to clean up all this mess?” I know that I have plenty of times. So I may take a little at a time and begin to clean it up. But do we really clean it or do we just straighten it up so that it looks clean? That is how our lives are as well. Are we truly cleaning up the messes in our lives or are we just straightening things up just so that it appears that it is clean.
Don’t just Straighten up…Clean UP
Often times before we can truly grow or see growth in our lives we have to clean up the messes. I equate this to my spring cleaning that I am doing right now. It’s crazy how before you can truly get to the finish product the pile of crap and mess that is surrounded by you. That is how I life is…Often times in order to see that true growth sometimes we have messes that are still within ourselves, within our lives. I look at it like my girls sometimes I tell them to clean up their room and they will push all their clothes underneath their bed or they will put the clothes towards the back of the closet. That is similar with our lives….often times we think that everything is cleaned, everything is all good but we still have messes that we have swept under the bed, swept over into another corner. We must realize that in order to truly be at peace, truly be in that full growth we have to clean up all the messes that lies within our lives. When we finally tackle all the messes that is when true growth happens, that is when we can blossom, that is when we can truly walk in our true SELF. But in order to truly walk in your most Powerful SELF you have to clean up the messes first.
So often we get in a rush with our health and fitness journey. We want to tackle everything right now and be at that weight, that fitness level, that overall healthy lifestyle in one night. But we have to realize that it didn’t take one night to get in the position that we may be in right now.
I look at health and wellness like one big puzzle piece. If I was to give you a puzzle that was 150 pieces and laid it all on the floor and said here you go put this together and create. You would look at me like Ummmmm. That is how our health and fitness life is we want to tackle everything at once, we want to have all of our nutrition down, all of our exercise, all of our healthy behaviors exactly where it needs to be. But like the puzzle we have to take one piece of the puzzle at a time to get the completed puzzle. So take that same aspiration with your health and wellness goals. Tackle each step and each piece at a time. That is how you can create a routine which in the end will create a habit.
It’s not a destination, It’s a journey
Another area of our healthy lifestyle journey is that we look at the entire experience as a destination. When you think about a destination you are going from Point A to Point B. You will do one or two things when you get to that destination. You will either stay there or you will go back. That is not what we want for our healthy lifestyle journey, we want it to be lifelong journey and not a destination. When we look at that then it is better to understand why it is important to take baby steps, to tackle each piece of the puzzle one at a time.
Stay Focus on Progression
The last aspect of this journey is staying focus on the progress you make each day. Slow down and enjoy the journey. Realize that is the small steps that help lead to the big change. Realize that every progress is a success. It doesn’t have to be big, it doesn’t have to be that big giant leap or step. Celebrate the small steps, the small accomplishments. When we change our mindset of the overall journey that is when we begin to truly enjoy the journey
Remember this journey isn’t easy, there will be days that you want to give up, there will be days you say why am I doing this? Realize that this is not just about accomplishing a goal but it is about creating a lifelong healthy lifestyle not only for you but for others to follow your footstep. Let’s help create a world full of healthiness through the steps that we take.
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